Scratch all that I wrote before, the two main things I want to really work on and improve are focus and discipline. Although that basically encompasses all that I said before.
Discipline
I wouldn’t say I’m an undisciplined person but there’s still a lot to improve. My problem is that there is a disconnection between my dreams and my actions. I have big ambitions but my day-to-day structure is not mirroring that. It could be a big problem in the future, when I realize that I haven’t accomplished what I set out to. In my eyes, discipline is what powers each day.
When it comes to discipline, the start of the year looks great. I am waking up early, going to the gym, working on myself. I have a deadline coming up so I need to stay sharp.
This is what I’m currently sticking to:
- gym 6 times a week (Mon-Sat, Sun is rest day)
- go hard at gym, not give myself excuses, do extra reps, extra exercises
- no youtube on weekdays
- phasing out facebook (not logged in since Dec 31)
- no reddit or instagram when at work, putting my phone away
I’ve been experimenting with social media usage in the past, for various reasons trying to quit. I think having literacy in social media is going to be a very valuable skill in the future. It’s not that they are bad, the thing is that you need to know how to use them and when they could be dangerous to you.
For me I know that looking at instagram and reddit can hijack my own values, interests, and motivations. Ultimately, my goal is to find truly my own motivations, things that drive me. I want it to come from my own core, not that I saw somebody somewhere and I want to be like them.
Focus
But being disciplined is just one side of the coin. Even if you make yourself sit down to work, if you don’t focus then it’s for nothing.
Recently I’ve learned something game-changing to me. I think that in the past I’ve misunderstood the pomodoro technique. Everywhere you find written that you’re supposed to work for 25 minutes and then take a break. But it somehow didn’t really work for me, I was always hesitating to start the second work session, and in general this tempo didn’t fit.
But then I learned about a different way to look at it. The key is to go for the flow state, and that takes some time to get into. What I’ve also learned is that it takes around 25 mins to even get into this state. So basically I’ve been stopping at the point where it’s just about to start getting productive.
But you can use the pomodoro as a starter, to get you going. The key is not to stop at the crucial moment. Since finding out about this, I’ve been experimenting with longer work sessions and it’s been working so much better so far.
What I still need to figure out is how to properly prioritize. Interestingly, this hasn’t been a problem for me so much up till now. I had just mostly one big thing in front of me. But recently I’ve been taking on more and more stuff, taking more responsibilities and working with more people. I need to learn how to give priority to activities that really make me progress, as opposed to just doing work for others.
Small Life Update
I could write a lot about the importance of time and its value. It was worrying that I didn’t have anything on my hand for a while, I don’t like having to grab my phone every time I want to see what time it is (it’s especially annoying when cooking).
I’m glad that I figured out my watch situation. Since the fitbit I got from Gabi for Christmas 2017 broke, and we got the money back, I was thinking what should I get as a replacement. I really wanted to have something tough, something I can wear all the time without worrying that it’s gonna break. Which is basically the definition of g-shock.
So far I’m extremely happy with it.
And what I’m even more happy about is that it’s basically a Christmas gift from Gabi 🙂